Is it a Paradox? Sanjana Desai

Is it a Paradox? Sanjana Desai

Sanjana Desai

Food for thought ! R we what were born as or what we have been conditioned to become over a period of time . This is especially for the woman in Indian culture. From the time a girl is born till her passing over to another realm every step is monitored . She is told what is good for her or what everybody else perceives would be good for her. Her goals ( if any ) are not her own.We fit in the role models set for us. All our lives are spent to live up to the expectations of people around us. How many of us even know what we really want to do or what we are truly. We are so caught up in the vicious circle of pleasing all that we no longer remain in touch with our own inner self Am sure ever woman has a tale to tell about the detours and speed breakers in her life to reach where she is today . The turbulence of being steered to a chosen path. I wonder if she ever sits back and speculates if this is her real calling ! If she ever connects with her inner self and soul and finds a completely different person lying submissively under the tons of layers of expectations and conditioning to be . Ever wondered how that real inner self would have grown without any such other influences? Just an introspection .

  • Bhupinder Kumar

    Very True…

    • Sanjana Desai

      Yes and it would be beautiful to get introduced to ur own true self

  • Harmohan Kapany

    The holds true for majority of Indian women residing anywhere in the world Sanjana . Unfortunately we are trained and molded into robots and worse still is the fact it is done by people closest to us including our own family members. Hiding behind layers is the true essence of a woman forever to remain dormant and sad is the fact that it impacts future generations of men and women. The nurturing spirit of a woman destroyed by the educated and uneducated alike. Concise and very well written.

    • Bhupinder Kumar

      Yes Harmohan.. I agree with your very lucid and candid views…. Who has given right to men to make mould for the women..time has come ,women has to make effort to come out of the cacoon

      • Sanjana Paul

        Yes but it takes centuries to break these shackles of insecure mindsets that runs through generations. Will break free soon

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks Harmohan ! Yes most of the restrictions come from the people in whom these women have their trust as their own. They r the ones who are most harmful in confining the true spirit of woman hood

      • Harmohan Kapany

        A well nurtured tree will bear better fruit and or provide shade against challenges that are in store for loved ones and future generations in such a world that is changing at such a fast pace. Strengthening your own to face them starts at the base. Would love to see a follow up on this article.
        Wish more people were aware. Changes comes with Awareness.

        • Sanjana Paul

          👍🏻

  • Bhupinder Kumar

    If I allow myself to be defeated by my own thoughts, then I am a loser in the real sense.

    Till the time, I am willing to get up for one more time,
    Willing to understand, accept and remedy my own shortcomings; I have access to evolving…we all do…

    • Sanjana Paul

      True that!

  • Dr Ravi Akbari

    Superb thought .

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks

  • Rathindranath Mukherjee

    Very deep and profound analysis of journey of a girl to womanhood … congratulations to Sanjana Desai for her path breaking and superbly written article . The article is as beautiful as it’s author and congratulations again .

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks Rathin! Coming from u it means a lot

  • Janesh Chhatbar

    very thoughtful lines. it can be anyone she or he. but indeed well explained. keep it up. love to read more from this author.

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks for liking it. Yes I do agree. Even certain men face similar issues. Will definitely try to write more. Thanks for the encouragement

  • Parth Vachhani

    Ideally, what should be said to every child, repeatedly, throughout his or her school life is something like this: ‘You are in the process of being indoctrinated. We have not yet evolved a system of education that is not a system of indoctrination. We are sorry, but it is the best we can do. What you are being taught here is an amalgam of current prejudice and the choices of this particular culture. The slightest look at history will show how impermanent these must be. You are being taught by people who have been able to accommodate themselves to a regime of thought laid down by their predecessors. It is a self-perpetuating system. Those of you who are more robust and individual than others will be encouraged to leave and find ways of educating yourself — educating your own judgements. Those that stay must remember, always, and all the time, that they are being moulded and patterned to fit into the narrow and particular needs of this particular society.

    • Sanjana Paul

      Incredibly put! But do u think they who take the responsibility of mouldings tender minds know no better than this?

  • Hatindersingh Rajput

    That’s y it is said god has created women as it wasn’t possible for him to reach everywhere,and no doubt she did justice to every role of hers,it is said u can buy everything wid money except the love and food of family,and this blog is typical blend of brain and beauty!!keep writing,u can be inspiration to many who can’t express their hidden talent just due to some sort of hesitation or some family boundings,keep motivating😀😀

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thank u so much Mr Singh. I feel if I can touch the life of a single person then my own becomes worthwhile

  • Vihar Solanki

    Very true _ she don’t get innuf time to
    think about herself because she live the life for her family’s happiness

    Inbuilt quality of every woman to care for others and find her happiness in that only ….. 😉

    Nice article of yours Mam 🙂 … jsk!!

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thank u Mr. Solanki.

  • Vikram

    Read above thought
    It’s not just a thought it’s dynamic soul n happiness expression which is truely n bravely engraved n seems written in pain to say ……
    Born to compromise
    Like a water crystal clear takes a shape way it’s poured.
    Salute …………
    Keep writing n inspiring
    Fan

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks for the appreciation