Journey of a Woman- Sanjana Desai

Journey of a Woman- Sanjana Desai

Ever wondered how that true inner self would have grown without any outward influences??????????
These influences are all around us and they make me question their impact on an individual.This thought process is not only limited to my being . It concerns every woman on different levels and scales.
Till recently my opinion about others was formed quite easily without once thinking what makes them what they are or why. My shallowness cut me to truth when I realised the perception of others about me is not what I really am . This introspection carried me to the point where I started the journey of finding my true inner self . Am still searching and believe me it’s not easy😓😜.
What made it a bit easy was to know that others around me are also sailing in a similar boat ,if not the same.
Few days back I met a lovely lady . We got acquainted and she somehow would make time to converse for few minutes whenever we would bump into each other. These fleeting moments with her helped us in getting to know each other better.She started telling me how she had time enough on her hands as her kids had grown up . I found out she was a well educated lady who got married at an early age. She seemed lonely and in search of doing something for herself . We talked for some time and she left. I realised the saddest part of the conversation was that after giving so many years of her prime life to her husband and family , she still had no free will to do something on her own.She was not aspiring for financial independence but for the freedom of spirit, independence of her self .I was quick to question her and say ” what’s stopping you now from doing anything?” . She just muttered “Easier said than done”and told me in as many words that the expectations of others ,whether her family or friends , were still as much as when she got married.Worse was she didn’t know what she wanted and had a feeling of incapability of doing anything besides being a full time family nurturer .It seemed to me that all her energy and vitality was spent in this humongous task. As if she had fed the relationships on her energies and now had nowhere to draw those positive energies from.

How disappointing that our own pull us back in life and like to see us in a set mould just because of their own stagnated mindsets and insecurities. Women go through depression and certain other psychological issues for the sole reason that others can’t handle their individuality.

How do we overcome this? How do we have the freedom of spirit in the true sense of the word?
My idea would be that each one of us can bring out that individuality in our own selves and respond to the signals of reaching out in women we know or are acquainted to. I would love to hold hand for comfort, of any woman who needs it . The strength is within us . It’s just the assurance of that strength that will help. Reach out please.There is only one life . Don’t let it pass by just like that. Live it to your own will. Smile more and be a reason to smile. 😊

  • Hatindersingh Rajput

    Rightly pointed ma’am!!But society in india is still very much modern u can say comparing to some Arab countries where women’s even can’t drive,but u have raised a valid point,after marriage women doesn’t belong to herself,she s a mother,a sister,a wife but not self,she sacrifices her hobbies,her likes and dislikes just to adjust wid family.

    Dats y we say god created women cos it was impossible for him to reach each and every place

    U have penned feelings of women very rightly,kudos to ur writing!
    👏👏👏👏👏

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks Mr. Singh for such kind words. I agree we r somewhat better that certain such places . But if we have to get comparitive why not with countries which are better than us. We have to look towards progression. Plus I feel y even compare every single woman on this planet needs to find her individuality irrespective of religion , country etc that she belongs to

  • Rathindranath Mukherjee

    Better than one woman holding another’s hand and giving solace and encouragement it would be better if each woman took firmly her life in her own hand and give it meaningful shape but then easier said than done and then again you are probably right that women help out women in giving encouragement . A very well written piece of literature full of sensitivity , empathy and compassion (y)

    • Sanjana Paul

      I wish so too Rathin that each woman takes charge of her own life without any help but this is imbedded so deeply in the mindset of all that it pulls her back at every step . Thanks for the compliments.

    • Bhupinder Kumar

      such writing…. will create an Eco system within the society .. where all would be accepted as they are and where disagreements are not considered as disrespect… where we do not compete but contribute to grow with mutual respect…

      • Sanjana Paul

        Yes A wonderful coexistence

  • Aarav Patel

    Wonderful…
    Kip it up….
    I support u…

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thank u so much

  • Janesh Chhatbar

    that lady you just talked was a reason to smile for many around her, especially her family. its the moral duty and there should be the feelings in the family whether her husband and/or children to give that smile back to all the majestic ladies who are doing everything without expecting anything in return and just the happiness of the people around them. and you know what??? What goes around comes around so the mean and calculative people even should do the same for themselves i.e to get the happiness in return they should give happiness to others. and the people who are truly respectable and don’t calculate about anything in return will always give smile to other as that lady does. thank you .its beautiful again to read the most beautiful lines from you. keep writing and keep inspiring.

    • Sanjana Paul

      Thanks and yes she did bring smile to many and all around her including herself. Wish she could get her soul satisfaction too as easily

  • Bhupinder Kumar

    Sanjana:- Conversations open up new avenues of thinking and consequently being…
    When I am truly willing to listen and am seeking an answer, the Universe opens up conversations…shows me signs…blesses me with insights…I appreciate you that you started the conversation …, I wish all those who have joined the conversation..a blessed space of communication…conversations….

    • Sanjana Paul

      The biggest drawback today is that we have ample time to speak out loud but minimum patience to lend a non judgemental ear.

      • Harmohan kapany

        True. Why is it so difficult for partners to nourish each other ? It is better that both partners are there for children if ever need arises in terms of guidance, physical and emotional support. The so called well educated are not even able to understand. Sad to say wisdom has nothing to do with educational background. How can anyone in the family be happy if the mother is lost? Everybody loses out in situations like that.

        • Sanjana Paul

          True. Harmohan share any experiences of people u know or about urself if any.

          • Harmohan kapany

            I know a woman who settled in Italy. Got married in tenth grade and lost her husband at the age of 50 to multiple sclerosis. During the twelve years of her married life when he was healthy he taught her everything about his business and taught her to speak Italian as well. She gives the entire credit of how she is coping with his loss in her life to his support. She travels all over the world and is the main head of her family. She has two sons and one is a doctor. As long as he lived he contributed to her growth as a woman and as a high functioning individual. It is not the number of years he lived but what he accomplished for himself as a father figure as well as a momorable human being in such a short span of time before he went downhill.
            I think one doesn’t need to be a woman to understand another woman. One needs an honest heart and the wisdom to do the right thing and that starts right at home. Support doesn’t always come from family most of the time and when in need one should just head out and knock on as many doors as possible for help.
            No one can make it on their own in this world. And at times it is also possible that people closest to you may not know even themselves that they are harming you. Exposure to wiser mind from outside world can bring balance and awareness of what’s missing and can be supplemented with the support of good souls. At times realization comes too late but that’s life. We have to pick up pieces and move on with whatever is left and give whatever we can for our own peace of mind.

  • Gurvinder Sheth

    I totally agree. Every woman goes through this in her life, just the intensity and extent tends to differ. This is a woman only problem sadly and only we as women can understand and help eachother.

    • Sanjana Paul

      Yes Gurvinder ! That’s exactly what I meant by extending helpful hand to each other. Thanks from one to the other

    • Bhupinder Kumar

      I think men from the very inception of humanity had been the bread earners ( hunters) .. so nature has moulded them like that… they also go thru the same way….but over come quickly.. on the other hand woman had always been a matter of pride or protected from the beginning of social system…. Somewhere now this needs to change… now we need to evolve… and understand women as an individual.. rather than a matter of possession …..raising a point is good idea… but rising above the situation is evolving … effort is required….

  • Vihar Solanki

    Any woman can change life of any man but can a man support woman to live the life on her own terms ?? 😔😕
    I hope for the change

    Nice 👍 article mam 👏💐 keep it up

    Not all but something will be happen in good way of change

    • Sanjana Paul

      There are quite a few men who do support but still the number is v less. I too hope the change comes soon. I would request u to join in this attempt for change. Thanks for the sipport

  • Ronak Patel

    gud one mam👏👏👏👏👏

    • Sanjana Desai

      Thanks