Ever wondered how that true inner self would have grown without any outward influences??????????
These influences are all around us and they make me question their impact on an individual.This thought process is not only limited to my being . It concerns every woman on different levels and scales.
Till recently my opinion about others was formed quite easily without once thinking what makes them what they are or why. My shallowness cut me to truth when I realised the perception of others about me is not what I really am . This introspection carried me to the point where I started the journey of finding my true inner self . Am still searching and believe me it’s not easy.
What made it a bit easy was to know that others around me are also sailing in a similar boat ,if not the same.
Few days back I met a lovely lady . We got acquainted and she somehow would make time to converse for few minutes whenever we would bump into each other. These fleeting moments with her helped us in getting to know each other better.She started telling me how she had time enough on her hands as her kids had grown up . I found out she was a well educated lady who got married at an early age. She seemed lonely and in search of doing something for herself . We talked for some time and she left. I realised the saddest part of the conversation was that after giving so many years of her prime life to her husband and family , she still had no free will to do something on her own.She was not aspiring for financial independence but for the freedom of spirit, independence of her self .I was quick to question her and say ” what’s stopping you now from doing anything?” . She just muttered “Easier said than done”and told me in as many words that the expectations of others ,whether her family or friends , were still as much as when she got married.Worse was she didn’t know what she wanted and had a feeling of incapability of doing anything besides being a full time family nurturer .It seemed to me that all her energy and vitality was spent in this humongous task. As if she had fed the relationships on her energies and now had nowhere to draw those positive energies from.
How disappointing that our own pull us back in life and like to see us in a set mould just because of their own stagnated mindsets and insecurities. Women go through depression and certain other psychological issues for the sole reason that others can’t handle their individuality.
How do we overcome this? How do we have the freedom of spirit in the true sense of the word?
My idea would be that each one of us can bring out that individuality in our own selves and respond to the signals of reaching out in women we know or are acquainted to. I would love to hold hand for comfort, of any woman who needs it . The strength is within us . It’s just the assurance of that strength that will help. Reach out please.There is only one life . Don’t let it pass by just like that. Live it to your own will. Smile more and be a reason to smile.